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Posted in friends, funny, Life, Me, memories, randomness, rant, ugh., weekend on 10/15/2010 by asante

Seriously. lol.

Ohhhh the hoodrachetassness that Atlanta females are capable of. Especially when some half-famous mostly-fine celeb is in town.  For those unfamiliar with the term, let me clarify:

hood•ra•chet•ass•ness (noun.)  – 1. The wildly unnecessary, uncouth, and ghetto behavior of an individual in response to some insignificant incident. 2. A primarily African-American deep-southern-bred mode of behavior that displays a woeful lack of God-given sense.

Yea. Merriam-Webster, hope you’re paying attention.

I still can’t get over the foolishness that went down last night. Me and some friends of mine decided to head to Opera last night (one of the many fine nightclubs in the city of Atlanta). It was my turn to drive, and I was willing happy to do it. (Sidenote: Those of you who don’t know me, let me be frank. I drive a lil’ crazy. Not SUPER crazy, but lets just say that I rarely obey speed limits. And quelling road rage is a constant struggle. And I’ve been known to scream/curse/yell/berate other drivers on a frequent basis. Yeah.) Now with the particular brand of stupid that characterizes many Atlanta drivers, I get a lil’ agitated on the roads. And moreso when people are rude for no reason.

So when it came time to attempt to turn into the badly-placed parking garage, and folk were wasting my time? I pulled my D.C. Driving* Skills out of my left pocket. I cut a chick off. *Kanye Shrug*

*D.C. Driving: The superior automobile operation capabilities that can only be taught by earning a license on the streets of the DMV (DC/Maryland/Virginia Area). Examples include: executing perfect illegal U-turns without having to re-adjust for the curb, effortless parallel parking, knowledge of when your brakes aren’t necessary, and the ability to pull off crazy driving moves without collisions/getting shot at. Also, the ability to navigate without ending up in SW D.C./Anacostia.*

She was NOT happy. Apparently she thought that leaving 10 feet of space in front her car was prohibitive. But hey. It happens. Some time or another, you’ll be hanging out behind the wheel, not paying enough attention to the road, and someone’s gonna cut you off. Does that warrant her reaction?

No. Heeeeeell No.

She and her friends (three cars worth!!) decided that the best course of action would be to spend the evening FOLLOWING us. They parked near us, followed us around the dance floor, trailed us to the bathroom…. ALL NIGHT. All the while Whisper-Thugging like they had nothing better to do with their evening.

Bish what?! lol

Seriously. You got into the parking deck, you got into the club, you may have even gotten a glimpse of that half-celeb who doesn’t give a rat’s tail about your simple self. No harm, no foul. Please find something more productive to do with your life than trying to intimidate me. And I say trying, because you don’t want none of this. Don’t make ME get rachet. lol.

Moral of the story: Atlanta chicks have cornered the market on hoodrachetassness. And maybe I just need to avoid club nights when they’re ALL trying to throw themselves at one of the 12 decent men in this city. Meh. Life choices.

< /rant >

The End. lol.


Filler Post…

Posted in beautiful, catching up, happyness, Me, weekend on 09/20/2010 by asante

Today I woke up in a GREAT mood. Might have something to do with how I spent my afternoon yesterday…but that’s all I’ll say about that on the internet. lol.  Nothing much to this post except to say, I hope that someone out there is having as great of a Monday as I’m having.

I’m smiling from the inside today, and it is WELL overdue :)

moment of clarity.

Posted in Life, Love, Me, revelations, sadface, weekend on 08/23/2010 by asante

I woke up early this Saturday morning with way too much on my mind.

Like, obnoxiously early, considering I was out til 4 am the night before. It was still kind of dark out, but I couldn’t sleep, so I fumbled for shoes and sweats and Tiger’s leash, and we went out for a walk. (I think he could tell that I wasn’t in the mood for his shenanigans, he was so calm on the leash for once in his life, I’m grateful to him for that.)

I spent the hour of our walk contemplating a lot of things, namely the last 4 years + change that I’ve invested in what I had convinced myself was growing and moving forward. I consciously and continuously ignored that voice in the back of my head rattling off those annoying cliche phrases we’ve all heard a million times. I told myself i just needed to put in more work. more effort. more time. more understanding. more more more more more.

It took till that saturday morning for me to step back and realize that after putting in so much, my return was frustratingly absent. It seemed with every step “I” took forward, “us” took a few back. I can’t honestly say I didn’t see it coming, I willfully and arrogantly ignored it. Told myself it was getting better, as the distance took bigger and bigger chunks out of what was.

And it hit me, I shouldn’t have to work this hard. Not when I’m doing it alone. Not when I’m contradicting the self-love, self-integrity, and self-respect that I’ve worked so hard to cultivate and nurture in myself. It’s been a long time coming for me to truly begin to understand what I want out of life, so why was I ignoring it?

To whom it may concern: I’m disappointed it had to get to this point, but I realize that I was unwilling to see what was in front of me, smacking me in the face. Doing my best to put my anger aside. I realize that in my neurotic maintenance of “us”, i forgot about “me”. But it doesn’t do anybody any good for me to harbor the guilt, the pain, or the anger anymore. And I can’t ignore what the inevitable next step is.

So I did what I should have done a while ago. I let it go.

I made it to the next street corner,  me and Tiger turned around, and went home.


Posted in college, funny, graduation, happyness, Life, randomness, The Holidays, vacation time, video, weekend, Work on 07/04/2010 by asante

Dedicated to anybody who is realizing they should have put off  joining the “real world”  after college just a liiiiitle bit longer, and who cherish these beautiful things called long weekends. lol.

OMG. so cute. lol. Happy 4th of July Weekend, y’all!

[Insert Hair Post Here]

Posted in catching up, hair, happyness, Life, Me, randomness, weekend on 06/19/2010 by asante

Hey y’all :)

So I tried my first protein treatment today, and I gotta say, the ‘fro LOVED it. lol.

My hair has been doing well, but lately I’ve noticed a little bit more shedding than normal, so I hit the net to find a solution. I’ve read time and time again about the whole “protein/moisture” balance, and when I was relaxed I know my hair responded well to protein treatments, but I just wasn’t sure. So today I bit the bullet, and decided to try out a Yogurt/Honey protein treatment, to see if I could reap any benefits.

I think it really helped! Here’s what I used: (and as always, I rarely measure accurately, I’m a big fan of just guessing lol.)

  • 1 cup (ish) of plain, nonfat yogurt
  • 1 large squeeze of honey
  • 2 tablespoons of my oil mix (equal amounts of jojoba, castor, sweet almond, and grapeseed oils)

Slapped all that goodness on the fro, and let it sit for about 45 mins-an hour. When I co-washed it out…. O_O my hair felt AWESOME lol. It felt strong and soft all at once, and thankfully not brittle or dry like some people warned (guess I’m not protein sensitive :)

After that, I followed up with a DC treatment, and since I’m all out of my SheaMoisture Deep Conditioning Mask, I mixed up something new…

  • Golfball sized glob of shea butter
  • about 1/3 cup of Lustrasilk Olive Oil Cholesterol
  • 1 tbsp of my oil mix
  • Large squirt of Tresemme Nourishing Moisture condish (basically I needed to finish the bottle lol.)

And that was a definite #win :) Rinsed it out, twisted up like always, using my leave-in spray mix and my newly mixed sheafrosting (my old shealoe mix, with an added squirt of the Tresemme for a smoother consistency.) The twists are slowly drying as I type, but they feel really good! My ends feel good, my hair feels nice and smooth, and hopefully over the next few days, I’ll notice more positive effects from the protein boost.  Me and the fro are happy :)

And I must be doing something right, because lately I’ve had a bunch of folks (friends and randoms) giving me compliments on my hair, and it makes me all warm and fuzzy inside :) lol. It’s nice to see that in such an unbeweavable city like ATL, there are still a few people who appreciate someone letting it Fro. lol

Anyways, I’m off for a serious cuddle session with my doggy, hope you all are enjoying your weekends!

“Someone stop the world…”

Posted in catching up, friends, happyness, hobbies, Life, Me, randomness, rant, revelations, ugh., weekend, Work on 06/16/2010 by asante

Ever get the feeling that life-in-general has just gotten ahead of itself and you just want EVERYTHING to pause for a few seconds so you can get back on your feet?

Yea, I’m so there.

There has been a LOT going on lately (not all of my life is blog-worthy, haha) and while a lot of it is good things (so I prolly should shut up and stop complaining) it’s just gotten to the point where it’s just exhausting and overwhelming and I just want to crawl into a hole somewhere by myself. My weeks at work either crawl or completely get away from me, and then the weekends roll around and I can’t help but want to be a loser and cuddle with my puppy in my apartment, alone, and not go anywhere. Not that I want to be a recluse or anything, I love going out with my friends, but it’s gotten to a point lately where I just don’t have the right mindset, and I end up making excuses half the time.

A lot of it may just be my overwhelming displeasure with Atlanta. I loved the city, but I think the spark has fizzled. I’m getting restless, I want to go somewhere new…. but I don’t know if I’ll be doing that any time soon (stay tuned).

I just need to get a lot of things back on track, so hopefully I can get my mind right sometime in the near future. Because when I’m in such a funky mood I can’t enjoy the things that are going well!! It all just ends up in a big messy jumble in my head and the chaos of it prevents me from seeing anything else about the situation, other than it’s chaotic. Maybe I should make a list…

  1. Get my finances back in order. They’re not terrible, but I know better, and they should be better. No more random spending…. (another nail in the coffin for my residing so close to Atlantic Station lol. Toooo much temptation.)
  2. Be more social. Not just hitting clubs with my friends either, I need to expand my circle a bit… I need to stop being such a punk about going places that interest me just because nobody wants to come with lol.
  3. Really focus in on my grad school future. Because I do NOT have a choice, I WILL get in. And I’m going to be awesome. So it’s probably a good idea to figure out exactly how awesome I plan to be. lol.
  4. Stick to my guns about who I do and don’t want around me. Just like I’ve been letting other little things slide, I’ve been letting my guard down a lil too much in this area and I’m not liking the results. Certain people come in and out of your life for a reason, I need to remember that
  5. Start doing more with my weekends! Take a walk with my dog and/or camera,  scout for art shows, festivals, meet, greet, enjoy, and LIVE a little. No more Asante-The-Recluse. I already am squirreled away at my cube for 40 hours a week, I need to take better care of my psyche in my downtime.

Ok, that’s a good start, I think. And I know I make a lot of lists, but I swear I do check them every now and again. lol. Glad you all can stomach my self-improvement rants from time to time.

Here’s to getting back on my feet, and heading back in the right direction :) *clink*

Weekend Craziness Catch-Up

Posted in catching up, F, graduation, Life, Love, Me, music, news, weekend on 05/18/2010 by asante

Sooooooo I’ve been a bad blogger… lol
I know I’ve been kinda MIA the past week, but I had a good reason:

My Graduate, F :)

I was all types of wrapped up in my boo’s SECOND graduation weekend craziness this weekend lol. Not to mention spending some long overdue QT with him. Put him on a plane back to Michigan this morning (*sadface*) But I’m so proud of him! Snaps for my Chemical Engineer :)

Anywhoo, is pulling out hit after hit this morning, and I’m feeling the following song in particular. Remember back in middle school when we all took sides on the whole “The Boy Is Mine” Monica v. Brandy deal? Monica won. BIG TIME. Her newest album is fantastic, and this is one of my favorite songs on it. Look it up if you haven’t heard it, she also previews it on her show “Still Standing” (yes, I watched a few episodes, stop side-eyeing me lol.). #TeamMonica!!!

“Love All Over Me” – Monica 

Must not have been paying attention,
I stepped right on it didn’t even notice how deep I was.
I went from the ground to the top of the cloud,
And now as i look down i see where i fell into your arms…

Now I’ve got love all over me,
Baby you touch every part of me
I’ve got love all over me,
And I don’t want to get it off,
I’m completely covered up in your love…

Even my skin is changing,
I’m feeling warmer no more icey blue hearts for me.
You put the color back in my life,
And now where there was black and white,
Oooh love made me irridescent.

Now I’ve got love all over me,
Baby you touch Every part of me,
I’ve got love all over me,
And I don’t want to get it off,
I’m completely covered up in your love…

Before your love baby I was muddy,
Filthy with pain till you took it from me.
You showered me with a new beginning,
Now I’m clean…
Took me by surprise when you ran up on me,
I came to life baby in that moment.
You put your hands on my heart and baby now it beats…

Now I’ve got love all over me,
Baby you touch every part of me,

I’ve got love all over me,
And I don’t want to get it off,
I’m completely covered up in your love…